Sometimes wisdom comes from the most unexpected conversation. I tend to be an anxious person by nature, but because I am aware of this I work on not letting it control my life. Last night we had friends over for dinner & then I had a Tastefully Simple party. Things were stressful to say the least. When I get to a certain point of stress my poor wonderful husband sometimes takes the brunt of it. He can say something and I will snap at him. Now don't judge me too harshly, because I am pretty sure that some of you would see that you do the same when you have reached the level of stress, hurt, or pain that you can no longer tolerate it. It reminds me of when my son was a baby and started hitting me and only me. The doctor said he is comfortable enough that I will still love him even if he does it so he was testing it on me. So I think that is why we strike out at those we love and who are closest to us. We know, hope & pray that their love is strong enough to understand and forgive us. It is a sad that we do this to those we love, but maybe a little understandable too.
During the party things were not as smooth as I would have liked as far as the behavior of the adults in my home. My friend Mel leans over and tells me that I can not control the adults and that I need to let it go and just enjoy myself. It struck me when she said it. Hugely simple concept, easy to understand, harder to put in action. Mel has resolved to have a stress free year and she is on the right path for success. I don't know that I can do that, but I have made it a goal to lessen my stress where I can. I can't always control things but I don't have to let them bring me down either.
I think my big thing is that I want everyone to be happy. Do I know in my head that this is not ever going to happen? Yes I do know this, but my heart wants me to do it anyway. Some of the people in my life are over-bearing and insistent on things going their way, and to keep the peace I don't fight it. I don't plan on starting to fight, I do however plan to stick up for myself and my children. It is not about running over everyone to get your way. I really feel that there is a way to get what you want using kindness, and that if more people tried it the world would be a better place. Too simplistic some of you may say, but think it through and you may seen some truth in it.
So lets all resolve to work on ourselves and being kind and not tearing others down so we feel like we get ahead. We don't truly get ahead that way, we just make others feel bad and hurt a part of our own heart and soul. Judge not... Thanks for listening
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